‘I've been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it’: Man considers accepting a job that would give him a $20k+ pay increase, but his girlfriend tries to guilt him into declining because he'd be unavailable on weekends

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Jul 25, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

The current state of the job market is absurd. Job seekers with over 20 years of experience and several degrees are being turned away by automated emails sent by unenthused HR managers. Post-grads are deciding that college is useless given their copious amounts of debt and inability to land an entry-level job at Target or Walmart. This economic state—a downwardly spiraling market—is unforgiving. But you knew that already, didn't you?

In this next story, a man has some real news to celebrate: After being in what he deems a "financial hole" for a long time, he recently received a job offer that gives him a $20k+ pay increase. The caveat? He has to work weekends. Clearly, nobody is especially thrilled about sacrificing their downtime, but the promise of a brighter future and contributing more to him and his girlfriend's life trumps that. His girlfriend, unfortunately, doesn't share in the same enthusiasm. Scroll below to read the full story.

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  • For every one post you read of someone celebrating a joyous end to their job search on platforms like LinkedIn and Reddit, you'll find 50 other commenters exclaiming how they are coming up on two years of the not-so-funemployed life. Folks with jobs hold onto them for dear life, even if they think their labor is being taken advantage of fiscally.

    This John Doe finally receives a crumb of the good life, but his girlfriend couldn't be bothered. Scroll below.

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  • "AITAH for taking a job that’s twice the amount I’ve ever made and would solve my financial problems"

    Got offered a job for $60k+ a year. Only problem is I'd have to work weekends. My gf works M-F and has weekends off. Her one
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  • requirement is that I also don't work weekends. It has made my job search significantly more difficult and I said screw it and
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  • went to an interview anyways. They offered me the job and I want to take it but now she is freaking out.
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  • I've been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it. I've been depr sed for years due to finances. This would be life changing for me.
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  • We have lived together for 8 years and she said we are done if I accept this job. She'd rather have me make $40k a year for
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  • now if it means I get weekends off for us to spend together. This job also has full benefits which I have never had. I need health and dental, etc.
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  • Would I be the a h le to accept the job? She keeps saying I'm being unreasonable and choosing money over her.
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  • Edit: Okay after all these comments of her being the a hole I'm starting to feel bad now. She's always made more money than me and has
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  • supported me financially at times more than I'd like to admit. I'v always been less financially stable than her and recently we
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  • bought a house because she didn't want to keep living in an apartment and to have nicer things in life.
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  • It's became harder now that we live in a house, she pays most often the mortgage but I pay the Electric, water, internet, etc. Do
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  • all the cleaning, housework, yard, fixing up the house, etc. Now we are both struggling but I just need a better job to help out
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  • more. Obvi she doesn't want me having this job because the weekend thing and she's said I could just find a different job that
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  • I can make more $$ working M-F, like going into a trade etc. The job I was offered was a Restaurant Manager for a popular
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  • franchise which suits me since I've managed restaurants in the past. We are 26f and 28m.
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  • Bluebells7788 "I've been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it." ΛΛ ^^ You don't have the luxury of passing up this job.
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  • tictactoss NTA. Partners are there to lift you up, not hold you down...she *should* be delighted for you. After 8 years if her reaction to something this life changing. in the most positive way is "I'll break up with you"...then let her. Or better yet, do it for her.
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  • GermantownTiger Here's my dad advice: Take the job...get a new girlfriend. Looks like she doesn't realize you could still see each other M-F in the evenings while also Sat and Sun in the evenings, too. (assuming it's not a night job).
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  • She also doesn't understand that a financially secure/less stressed YOU is actually better for HER in the longrun. She's a knucklehead. Godspeed to you.
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  • WineChick23 NTA. Why does SHE get to put requirements on YOUR job. If she doesn't want to be with you over this, next time it will just be something equally ridiculous. I'd be done with her over that ultimatum anyway.
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  • Lizm3 You're not choosing money over her, you're choosing financial security and less stress. Saying that I can understand that she wants a partner she can spend quality time with. She doesn't get to dictate what hours you work - that's your choice. But she can decide she doesn't want a partner who works weekends. That's her choice. Google
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